Dear Dr Cath,
My mate is very cut up after being ditched by his girlfriend. He told me he is thinking of putting a video of himself having kinky sex with her on the internet as revenge if she doesn't take him back.
My wife knows his ex and says there's no hope of reconciliation. I feel I should warn her about the video but don't want to betray my friend. Dear reader, IT'S completely out of order to put this video on the internet. You need to trust your lover if you're going to make a movie with them - and trust them not to misuse it if you break up.
Give your friend the support he needs and persuade him against doing this.
Otherwise ask your wife to warn his ex.
